With all the pressures of life, work and family, often times a marriage can become boring. One day blurs into the next and there is no romance or excitement anymore, instead just the same exact routine as the day before. If you keep finding yourself thinking ” Im bored with my marriage,” there are things you can do to recapture that spark that you and your partner once felt for each other.
Things why I’m bored with my marriage
One of the best and easiest ways to bring excitement back into a marriage is to start dating again. Now, of course I’m talking about dating your spouse – not someone else! Think back to the early days of your relationship when you were first starting to date or shortly after you got married. Chances are that it was a lot more exciting than your marriage is now. Part of the reason that it was more exciting is because you and your partner spent time together doing fun things and talking to each other. Over time in just about any marriage the pressures of work, family and life slowly creep in and before you know it you and your spouse stop spending any fun, quality time together. That’s when things become boring. Even if you do spend time together chances are you talk about things like your finances, children, or day to day problems that need addressing. While all of those things are important to discuss they aren’t very romantic and don’t help bring excitement into your marriage.
Problems when I’m bored
To combat this and regain excitement in your marriage, try setting up a date night each week with your spouse. If you have children hire a babysitter in advance for that night so you are more likely to stick to it each week. If you have strict work schedules find a time that works for both of you and stick to it. Make a pact with your spouse that neither of you is allowed to cancel date night – after all, your marriage is very important and is worth spending a little time each week to nurture and grow.
Simple ways I do when I’m bored
Try to avoid dates like movies where you don’t have a chance to talk to each other and instead find activities where you can reconnect and get to know each other again. Also commit to not talking about problems like work or family issues during your date – you have plenty of time to talk about those things outside of date time and you should make every effort to make your dates fun, carefree and enjoyable for both of you. One great way to get closer to someone is to find an activity that neither of you have tried but you both would like to do – like taking dance classes, bowling, skydiving or any other activity that sounds exciting. If your spouse is not totally on board tell them how much it means to you and try to plan an activity that they would really enjoy. As you spend more time together your love with grow and you will regain the excitement that you once felt for each other.